Dating – Emotional Intimacy Starts With A Simple Touch

Touch is essential to intimacy. Okay, I know you think I’ve just stated the obvious but I’m not talking about that kind of intimacy. I’m talking about emotional intimacy and the hand holding, arms around the waist, bear hugging, back rubbing, cheek kissing, fist bumping, high fiving, shoulder rubbing, bottom patting, kind of touching that makes you feel warm and good inside (and can lead to that kind of intimacy). It’s a fact: humans are tactile beings. We thrive on touch. Without it we whither and, no kidding, can actually lose our minds.

A whole bunch of studies have been done on touching and some interesting stuff has been learned. Being touched .. .

o Lowers your stress level and raises your immunity.

o Speeds up the healing of wounds.

o Lowers your blood pressure and heart rate.

o Causes oxytocin (the cuddle hormone) to be released into the blood system.o And much more.

What if, instead of folding your arms or otherwise physically withdrawing from each other when you’re angry or upset, you instead touched. Try to imagine having an argument while holding hands or hugging. It would be tough to do. I know. It goes against the human grain to hug while all bent out of shape. But, what if before you were torqued, when you feel that first itch of irritation, you quickly gave your sweetie a bear hug. Bet that irritation would evaporate. I also betcha that the more you touch each other, the less likely you are to feel that irritation in the first place.

When you’re having a tricky discussion about whether to have another (or the first) child, to invite your mother-in-law to move in with you, or to quit your job and start your own business, the conversation is bound to be easier if you’re holding hands while having it. It’s easier to say what’s on your mind when you feel supported and loved. Loving touches communicate just that.

I attended a seminar somewhere and, unfortunately, I can’t remember the name of the guy who gave it or I’d give him credit for this. He said a 20-second kiss is exactly the right amount of time to create a strong emotional tie but not quite enough to send you to the bedroom. We’ve tried it, the hubby and I. And, you know what, a 20-second kiss does make you feel really, really connected. And, sometimes it can send you to the bedroom.

So, look, it seems too simple to be so effective but, trust me, touching your sweetheart has oodles of benefits so give it a try, okay?

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Dating – Emotional Intimacy Starts With A Simple Touch

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